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Mar 12Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

Congrats on your year of writing, Vicki!! And thank you for offering such beautiful wisdom from your decades of practice.

I love all the learnings you share here, but this one feels especially needed in our times: "There is something likeable and relatable about everyone once you hear the most vulnerable parts of their story, their deepest fears, their insecurities." ❤

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Mar 11Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

This list is really well done and I spent time reflecting on each one of them to bear witness to my own thoughts as well as think about current and past clients. Taken together, a theme of building connection to yourself and others stands out to me and that resonates with my belief that life is really about connecting to our own “humanness.” Thanks for sharing this. I also enjoyed your article on the way through depression is feeling your emotions.

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Mar 12Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

Thank you for this Vicki, what a collection of gems 💕💕

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Mar 10Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

Happy anniversary - and thank you for sharing your 20 golden nuggets too! - fantastic read and each one resonates with me.

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Happy anniversary! I’m really enjoying your writing and insights. I think the one that is most interesting - although they all resonate - is that most people’s behaviour is about them not you. I find this particularly helpful when dealing with my teenagers! Thanks for being here and sharing your wisdom… and here’s to the next year! 🥂

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Respect

Community

Love

External

Internal

The five fingers of the hand.

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Beautifully articulated gems of common humanity, Vicki. Thank you for this gift on your Anniversary! I'll share this article, I hope that's okay.

#19 is SO true. I often think that Robert Frost's poem of two paths is misquoted—both paths are equally hard, but we need to choose at that moment. It's only later, in hindsight, that we can weave a story of choice around that moment, that makes it 'the right one'.

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Mar 12Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

No.11: I’d add not just feeling it, but accepting it. That’s the place I balk every time. And once I do it starts to get better almost immediately.

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“Everything is impermanent. Even the darkest despair or the deepest panic ends at some point and eventually shifts into something else.” Very true and yet something I tend to forget when I am in the pit or a panic. Also would love to hear more about reconnecting with the body for healing.

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This list is exceptional, and couldn't have shown up in my inbox at a better time.

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Mar 10Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

What a brilliant list. Thank you for sharing so generously.

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Apr 9Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

So much resonates here. What a great list and there is little difference between the therapy room and the coaching room.

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Apr 3Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

I just found this in my junk mail, I’m not sure why that keeps happening! But better late than never, there is so much wisdom here 🧡

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Mar 22Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

This list is right on. I start therapy Monday for the first time and I am nervous about it. Hoping to find some help figuring out things.

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Mar 22Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

Thank you for the reminder to get back to work on nervous system regulation. It's easy to fall out of the habit of breath work and meditation (which for some of us ought to be prioritized like brushing our teeth!). Also, I've experienced the beautiful calm of yoga nidra, but can't find any local practitioners where I am. Can you recommend anyone's recorded yoga nidra guided meditations?

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Mar 21Liked by Dr Vicki Connop

Thank you for sharing! Congratulations on one year of Substack. I need to connect with my body, for sure. We’ve been enemies my entire life.

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