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Congrats on your year of writing, Vicki!! And thank you for offering such beautiful wisdom from your decades of practice.

I love all the learnings you share here, but this one feels especially needed in our times: "There is something likeable and relatable about everyone once you hear the most vulnerable parts of their story, their deepest fears, their insecurities." ❤

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I find this to be infinitely true in my practice as well. It reminds me of the Brene Brown line of, “People are hard to hate up close.”

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Thank you Dana, and yes, that's been one of the privileges of doing this work - getting to see past the surface layers to the shared humanity that exists, even beneath the most annoying of behaviours!

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This list is really well done and I spent time reflecting on each one of them to bear witness to my own thoughts as well as think about current and past clients. Taken together, a theme of building connection to yourself and others stands out to me and that resonates with my belief that life is really about connecting to our own “humanness.” Thanks for sharing this. I also enjoyed your article on the way through depression is feeling your emotions.

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Thank you Cody, that's lovely to hear. And yes, the theme of connecting to self and others probably sums up my approach to therapy pretty well 😊 I'm glad to hear it resonated with you.

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Happy anniversary - and thank you for sharing your 20 golden nuggets too! - fantastic read and each one resonates with me.

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Thank you Janine - that's great to hear 😀

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Beautifully articulated gems of common humanity, Vicki. Thank you for this gift on your Anniversary! I'll share this article, I hope that's okay.

#19 is SO true. I often think that Robert Frost's poem of two paths is misquoted—both paths are equally hard, but we need to choose at that moment. It's only later, in hindsight, that we can weave a story of choice around that moment, that makes it 'the right one'.

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Yes, that's a great point Victoria. Thanks for your comments and yes, you're very welcome to share my posts, much appreciated 🙏

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“Everything is impermanent. Even the darkest despair or the deepest panic ends at some point and eventually shifts into something else.” Very true and yet something I tend to forget when I am in the pit or a panic. Also would love to hear more about reconnecting with the body for healing.

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Yes - amazing how hard it is to hold onto that when we're in the midst of something intense!

I will definitely be sharing more on connecting with the body for healing - this is one of my favourite topics 😀 Stay tuned!

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Thank you for this Vicki, what a collection of gems 💕💕

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Thank you Emma 😊

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This list is right on. I start therapy Monday for the first time and I am nervous about it. Hoping to find some help figuring out things.

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Thanks Colleen and good luck with your therapy journey. I've seen a few different therapists over the years and always got something useful from it. First sessions are a bit nerve-wracking though!

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I made it through the first visit and plan on going back so I guess it went well.

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Glad to hear that Colleen 😊

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Thank you

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Happy anniversary! I’m really enjoying your writing and insights. I think the one that is most interesting - although they all resonate - is that most people’s behaviour is about them not you. I find this particularly helpful when dealing with my teenagers! Thanks for being here and sharing your wisdom… and here’s to the next year! 🥂

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Thank you Alana, it's great to have you here. And yes, very useful to remember that about teens 😀

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Dear Dr Vicki, what a beautiful post. The nuggets of wisdom you’ve captured are inspiring. Each in their own way provides so much food for thought. Thank you ❤️😊🙏🏽

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Thank you Kajal, I'm so glad to hear it resonated with you 😊

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Respect

Community

Love

External

Internal

The five fingers of the hand.

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Beautiful Malcolm 😊

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Thank you.

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No.11: I’d add not just feeling it, but accepting it. That’s the place I balk every time. And once I do it starts to get better almost immediately.

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Yes, beautifully said - acceptance is so often the first step towards change 😊

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This list is exceptional, and couldn't have shown up in my inbox at a better time.

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That's great to hear Sarah 😊

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What a brilliant list. Thank you for sharing so generously.

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Oh thank you Angela. I'm glad to hear it resonated with you 😊

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A very nice read. I'm really interested in self realization and spirituality, and from the insights I've gained, therapy too seems to me like spiritual practice or mindfulness in that it helps us see through our illusory ego.

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Yes, I think there's a big overlap between those disciplines. Mindfulness and self-awareness are cornerstones in my approach to therapy 😊

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Now I know for sure hearing it from a practising therapist.

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I agree on this…there is so much overlap with spiritual realization and the healing that can happen in the therapy room.

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So much resonates here. What a great list and there is little difference between the therapy room and the coaching room.

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Thanks Paul 😊

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I just found this in my junk mail, I’m not sure why that keeps happening! But better late than never, there is so much wisdom here 🧡

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Thanks Lucy. That's disappointing that they end up in junk mail folders though 😕

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