I’m 84 and only recently learned how to get really angry at someone whom I allowed to bully me for over 20 years. I realized lately that she has downloaded her story into her inner hard disk and will never be able to unburden herself or me of this contrived tale of woes that she fancies I caused her. Not long ago she started on me again. Until that day I had listened or attempted to defend myself or tried placating her . All of what she vitupérated was designed to carry on and protect her belief that I was the villain and she the innocent party. Well 2-3 months ago I realized. Her story is hers and that she will have to deal with it without me. So last phone call she began again. This time I cracked and let her know that I wanted nothing more to do with her. I said “Stay out of my life. Forever. You’ve tried to deride and diminish me. Your same speech I’ve heard for almost 30 years. Now I will close this chapter of my life and live without you haranguing me.” She tried to gain allies against me among my friends. When that failed she called my cleaning lady to ask if I spoke about her. That failed. So now her husband gets instructions about what to say in emails and he obeys. I finally had to shut him down too . Thanks trfor your article and for the opportunity to tell me how to stop being bullied. That’s ok
I’m 84 and only recently learned how to get really angry at someone whom I allowed to bully me for over 20 years. I realized lately that she has downloaded her story into her inner hard disk and will never be able to unburden herself or me of this contrived tale of woes that she fancies I caused her. Not long ago she started on me again. Until that day I had listened or attempted to defend myself or tried placating her . All of what she vitupérated was designed to carry on and protect her belief that I was the villain and she the innocent party. Well 2-3 months ago I realized. Her story is hers and that she will have to deal with it without me. So last phone call she began again. This time I cracked and let her know that I wanted nothing more to do with her. I said “Stay out of my life. Forever. You’ve tried to deride and diminish me. Your same speech I’ve heard for almost 30 years. Now I will close this chapter of my life and live without you haranguing me.” She tried to gain allies against me among my friends. When that failed she called my cleaning lady to ask if I spoke about her. That failed. So now her husband gets instructions about what to say in emails and he obeys. I finally had to shut him down too . Thanks trfor your article and for the opportunity to tell me how to stop being bullied. That’s ok
Well done! It's never too late to learn how to set boundaries and step into your power and agency 😊
Quite,a powerful read. 🌷
Thank you David 😊
No surprise it took me a while to get around to reading this Vicki. 🙈 As ever, thank you. D x
Such wise words 🙏🏽
Thank you Lucy ❤
Thanks. Your note was further assurance I did the right thing. For myself. Cheers, Suzanne White